Everyone has an experience of losing some things and not only things, but loved ones as well. “People or things come and go.” We live in a world where balance is essential,a loss is matched with something new. If a tree dies somewhere, a seed begins to germinate and eventually grow into a new plant. We cannot avoid this phenomenon, it comes with the constant thing called—change. It is part of the cycle of life. Things have to go to make room for a new one that will come to existence.
With this loss, we as humans experience the emptiness inside. It is not just that physical effect of lacking something, what I mean is, you would not get to see that precious thing or you would not be able to be with that person that has gone away. Normally, with losing that something is like losing a part of yourself also, especially if that thing you lost is something that you hold very dear in your heart.
Losing a part of you is something that could not be healed by any medicine nor be filled by anything else, what can only fill it, is the thing itself. But I am relieved because each of us here, living on the surface of the earth has his or her own way of dealing with losses. Yes, your way of dealing might not replace that lost feeling, but it helps to ease its intensity, even just a little. Easing that emptiness is something you need to go on with life. If one is not able to satisfy that deep pain of loss within him or her it would be impossible for that person to really live a life or to move forward.
I realized that nowadays as a friend of mine lost someone very important to him. He admits that he is depressed but somehow, he is unable to cure that depression or maybe he doesn’t want it to go away.
Sometimes, we are like this. When you lost your favorite toy in the department store, you will search the department store far and wide until you find it right? You would not leave that place until you have found it, but even when you still could not find it, you won’t leave that department store until your parents scold you and make you leave and you leave the store with a heavy heart. Why a heavy heart? Because when you leave that department store, that would mean that you have lost your favorite toy forever, you will not be able to see it anymore, and it sort of feels like giving up.
Maybe this situation is the same with what what my friend is going through at the moment. When we lose someone dear to us, we would just refuse to smile or let our burdens out for the fear of feeling better, because it would mean that getting better have would take that hold of loss therefore losing the essence of that someone entirely. We fear that if we get better, it would make us forget that someone we lost. Dwelling in that deep ocean of melancholy will help us feel the loss ergo, make us feel like that person has never left our side along with the bitterness of his leaving.
It seems stupid, but it is true. We do not want to let that mourning feeling go because it is a way of remembering that one thing we lost. But this isn’t living, this isn’t life.
It doesn’t mean that you lost someone, you would have to bury yourself along with that person. It doesn’t mean that he or she is gone that we would stay sad until your time in this earth ends. It deosn’t mean that when we lose something, we should go on looking for it forever.We still have a life, a life to be lived and that is why we are still on this earth.We have to live for those things or people that have gone ahead of us because that is what living means. I know this is cliché but I have to say this, “while there is life, there is hope.”
That emptiness within you can still be filled by Someone who is greater than you. God and His love. Your scars can be healed, yourbroken heart can be made whole again when you have Jesus.
We live on searching for something that can fill the emptiness within us, we resort to various things when only one thing is the answer, and that is—The Cross.
When you lost someone and you have Jesus, you would not stay in sorrow forever because you know that you will be together again with that person. You would not resort to solitude and depression because with death comes life and life is more important now.
You feel like you will lose the person entirely when you go into depression? You are wrong, when you go into that, the more you will not accept the loss, the more that you will lose that person—the life he or she once lived because you are only concentrated or focused on the loss of him or her. But when you look at the brighter side of life and start to treasure the life that you have now and start living it, the more that you will be at ease and the more you will feel like everything’s normal again, the person you lost just, went away for vacation or entered another room that you, yourself will enter one day. There’s anticipation, there’s excitement to be with that someone again.
God has promised us that He will never leave us nor forsake us. He will be with us through whatever season, whatever day, whatever hour. He is with us always. You are never alone because there is Someone who stands by you through whatever circumstance you face. Even in times of loss or mourning, He is just right there, willing to give you an embrace.
Know that you are never alone with losing something, everyone in this world has lost someone or something. You can always find comfort in your friends and family, even in your church. That is, only if you are willing to be comforted.
There is more to life than loss, there is more to life than depression. There are thousands of people out there who might need you, why waste your life away locked in your solitude-melancholy room?
Move forward, move on, help others, live your life to its fullest because that is what all people who have gone away wish for the ones they love that are left behind. I know that they would not want their beloved to be wasting their lives at the loss of them. They have lived their lives, why waste living yours?
